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Cultivating Your Attractiveness to Others by Developing Charisma

By Sherika Brown

 Why is being Attractive important in our relationships?

 People are only willing to help people they like or that they are attracted to, whether it is an intimate relationship, family relationship,  a business relationship or even a work relationship.   People will only support you if they like you!

 What is Charisma?

Charisma is the ability to be genuinely likeable.   It is the ability to make others feel valuable or important.    Charisma is the ability to display your uniqueness to others.   It is also the ability to exude self confidence and high self esteem.

 Why is Charisma Important?

 Charisma is what activates the law of sowing and reaping in your life.    It causes opportunities to flow to you and doors to open to you.    Charisma causes people to support you and facilitate your purpose and your vision.   It draws resources to you like magnets; it causes you to be promoted faster and also makes you more influential.   Charisma is the key element in cultivating and sustaining good relationships on all levels.

It is what gives you your edge and also establishes your distinctiveness.

 The Secret of Charisma

 The key secret of charisma is simply making others feel important while demonstrating a strong sense of self confidence.

 Keys   To Developing Charisma

1. Be genuinely interested in others.
2. Support the vision and dreams of others
3. Be a good listener
4. Give praise when praise is due
5. Speak well of others
6. Develop the spirit of excellence in everything you do
7. Have a clear sense of purpose
8. Actively pursue your vision and dreams
9. Have a strong self image i.e. think well of yourself
10. Allow your physical image to always convey you as the best in your field
11. Become a down to earth person
12. Be pleasant and calm
13. Be creative
14. Be knowledgeable in your subject area
15. Become the best in your field
16. Be courageous in the midst of adversity
17. Be action oriented
18. Be approachable
19. Be enthusiastic and passionate about your goals
20. Be a person of high values and strong principles
21. Have clear boundaries
22. Accept and love yourself unconditionally

Action Exercise

1. Make a decision to practice the 22 keys to developing charisma on a daily basis with all of your relationships.

 Recommended Book

 Winning With People - John Maxwell

Quotes to Remember 

“Become the kind of  person that people would follow voluntarily, even if you had no title or position.” - Brian Tracy

“They don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” - Lou Holtz

Founder & C.E.O.

DO YOU HAVE GOOD CHARACTER?

By: Sherika Brown

 The purpose of relationships is to be God’s hand extended; it is to essentially reveal God’s character (His image, His nature) to others.

 The first gift God gave man was character (Genesis 1:27).  Hence, you reveal the character of God in the four (4) following ways: 

• 1. By being productive - i.e. exercising your gifts and talents through career development, business development and ministry development.
• 2. By being loving - i.e. extending love to others, being gracious, having a forgiving heart and by valuing your relationships.
• 3. By being truthful - i.e. being holy, living right, being honest, displaying integrity, being confrontational, being transparent, and also by being vulnerable.

•4.  By being excellent - i.e. always giving the best, performing at a superior level, being outstanding, and by being exceptional.

 The ability to develop good character is the greatest sign of your spiritual growth and also your maturity.   Also, the quality of your relationships is determined by your character development.

 Having good character is what makes relationships work.

 CHARACTER CHECK LIST

 Here are few questions to measure the level of your character development: 

• 1. Are you loving and forgiving?
• 2. How do you respond to people that have people that have betrayed you, lied on you, hurt you? Do you really forgive?
• 3. Can you connect with others emotionally? Are you vulnerable?
• 4. Are you real, genuine, and transparent?
• 5. Do you have superficial relationships?
• 6. Is it easy to get to know you?
• 7. Are you stable and predictable? Are you the same with everyone?
• 8. Can people trust you, can people confide in you?
• 9. Do you tell the truth?
• 10. Are you able to confront when necessary? Do you tell people the truth even thought it may hurt them?
• 11. Do others consider you to be credible, reputable and respectable?
• 12. Are you committed? Are you willing to fulfill your end of the deal regardless of the other person’s performance?
• 13. Do you fulfill your promises?
• 14. How do you treat people from different backgrounds, different countries and different economic status?
• 15. Are you prideful and arrogant?
• 16. Are you extremely critical and judgmental of others?
• 17. Are you competitive with others?
• 18. Are you jealous of others?
• 19. Do you feel inferior to others?
• 20. Do you feel superior to others
• 21. Are you faithful and loyal?
• 22. Do you have a long history of relationships?
• 23. What are the qualities of your associations?
• 24. How do you respond to failure? How do you respond to sin?
• 25. Are you a perfectionist? Do you expect people to be perfect to be a part of your life?
• 26. Can you say I am sorry?
• 27. How do you respond when things don’t go your way?
• 28. Do you respect other people’s time, their boundaries? Do you respect their no?
• 29. Do you have good boundaries? Are you able to tell people no?
• 30. Do you only love those you can benefit from?
• 31. Are you responsible for your own life? Are you an adult with no dependencies on parents or inappropriate dependencies on people?
• 32. Do you desire to see other’s grow, or is it all about you?
• 33. Are you self controlled? Are you disciplined?
• 34. Are you in touch with your sexuality, the sexual gender that God created you to be?
• 35. Do you respect authority? Are you submitted to it?
• 36. Do you have a passion? Are you driven?
• 37. Are you exercising your gifts and talents?
• 38. Are you pursuing your vision and dreams?
• 39. Are you slothful?
• 40. Do you settle for second best?
• 41. Are you submitted to God? Do you really obey him
• 42. Is your life filled with rigid rules? Or is it really about relationship with God and with others?

 Why Do You Need Good Character?

 God judges mankind by the ability to reflect good character.    Character is what attracts the favor of God in you life, character qualifies you for leadership and it is character that sustains all of your relationships.

 Here are a few action exercises to put these thoughts to actions: 

• 1. Perform an assessment of your character development based on the checklist provided. Where weaknesses in your character have been identified, make a decision to develop yourself in those areas.
• 2. Make deliberate efforts to develop your character in the four (4) key areas identified.

 Recommended Book 

The Most Important Person on Earth - Dr. Myles Munroe

 Quote to Remember

 “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Founder & C.E.O.

ENDURING THE TESTS IN AN ASSIGNED RELATIONSHIP

BY:  SHERIKA BROWN

God specifically assigns people to be His hands extended in your life.    He specifically places people in different areas of your life to be a channel of His blessings.    These relationships represent His heart and mind to you.    They are designed to be reflective images of God’s personality and His character to you.  These relationships are assigned by God to be with you in changing seasons of your life.

 Characteristics of Assigned Relationships:

1. They have a common bond with you and share a mutual connection with you.
2. They recognize who you are, identify your greatness, and treat you as you are.
3. They capture the vision and the passion that God has given to you.
4. They continuously support you.
5. They treat you with honor and respect.    Always celebrating your feats and accomplishments and regardless of your seen imperfections they celebrate you.
6. The meet your basic human needs such as affirmation, acceptance, recognition, appreciation etc.
7. They love you, the real you, the work in progress you.   
8. They extend favor to you and provide opportunities to you.
9. They increase you.   They increase you in knowledge, in wisdom etc.
10. They have a grace for you.      They see you through life challenges and also through your failures.

 There are times your assigned relationships are tested.   There are also times the assigned relationship faces trials.   In fact, every significant assigned relationship in your life will be tested and it will experience some trial.

 What is a test or trial?

A test or trial is an obstacle, a challenge, or a difficulty that hinders the stability within the relationship?   Eg. Disharmony, financial instability etc.

 What affects does the test have on the relationship? 

1. The test solidifies and strengthens the relationship.
2. The test validates the relationship; it proves that the relationship is from God.
3. The test improves the relationship, you learn from your mistakes.
4. The test defines the relationship; it determines the roles the persons involved in the relationship are to play in each others lives.
5. The test demonstrates the genuineness of your love for each other.
6. The test matures the relationship.

 The ability to overcome tests and trials within a relationship is typically evidence that a relationship is assigned by God in your life.    Also, the inability to overcome tests and trials is proof that a relationship may not or may no longer be assigned by God to your life.

As long as you are present on earth, you will have struggles and difficult moments in your relationships.    Tests and trials are a part of your growth and maturity.   In fact it is the test and trials within the assigned relationships that proves and fulfills one of God’s greatest promises to and through mankind that He will never leave you nor forsake you.

 Here are a few action exercises to put these thoughts to actions:

1. If you are going through a difficult time in an assigned relationship, renew your commitment to the relationship.
2. Embrace God’s will for the relationship.
3. Pray for wisdom in the relationship.

 Recommended Book

God Will Make A Way - Dr. John Townsend

 Quote to Remember

 “Relationships are the hallmark of the mature person.” -Brian Tracy

 “Consider it pure joy, whenever you face trials of many kind, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.    If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him” - James 1: 2-5

Founder & C.E.O.

HOW TO RECOGNIZE WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ASSIGNMENT HAS CHANGED

BY: SHERIKA BROWN

Relationships represent the heart and mind of God towards us.  They reveal God to us.   Jesus told his disciples I will not leave you comfortless; I will send you a helper the Holy Spirit.  He later said, the Holy Spirit will be a witness of Jesus. The scripture1 Corinthians 6:19 states that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit, hence the Holy Spirit works his power, reveals Jesus to us and helps us through people.

Along your journey in life, God places people alongside of you to help you. They help you mature and they provide you with wisdom. God assigns them to you to help you fulfill His will for your life.

Not every relationship assignment is permanent, there are some assignments that are seasonal and you must be able to recognize when the season for the relationship has changed.

How to Recognize When a Relationship Assignment in Your life Has Changed

Here are few ways to identify when a relationship in your life has changed:

1. A person’s assignment in your life has changed when they no longer add value to your life. The nature of God is increase, relationships are designed to increase you; when a relationship is no longer increasing you that is evidence that the season in the relationship has changed.

2. There is a lack of harmony in the relationship, they are no longer in synch with and there is no unity in your relationship.

3. There is a conflict in goals and there is a clash in visions within the relationship.

4. The relationship becomes a distraction to you and begins to hinder you from growing and maturing.

5. The person you are in relationship with dishonors you, takes you for granted and becomes over familiar with you.

6. They belittle your gifts, undervalue your assignment, and overlook your greatness.

7. You have outgrown the relationship in wisdom, in knowledge, and also in experience.

There are times that you outgrow people and you must recognize when you have. You must make the necessary decisions to not throw the person away but to adjust the relationship to accommodate the change in the assignment of the relationship.

Here are a few action exercises to put these thoughts to action:

1. Identify the relationships in your life whose assignment in your life has changed. Express gratitude to those persons for their contributions in your life in the past.

2. Make the necessary adjustments to the relationship.

RECOMMENDED BOOK

The Assignment - (The Trials and the Triumphs) - Mike Murdock

QUOTE TO REMEMBER

“Anything that does not change you is unnecessary in your life” - Mike Murdock

Contact Information:

P.O.Box SP 60026

Nassau, Bahamas

Telephone No. (242) 376 3922

Email: ironnetwork.org@gmail.com

or info@ironnetworkinc.org

Website: www.ironnetworkinc.org

HOW TO DISCOVER THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE ASSIGNED TO YOU

Founder & C.E.O.

By: Sherika Brown

Relationships are conduit of God’s hearts towards you. God reveals His nature and His mind through people. God has assigned certain people in your life to be a channel of his blessings in your life. These people are designed to express His grace, His love, His favor, His friendship and His fortune to you.

Whenever God wants to fulfill His purpose in your life He brings people into your path, but you must be able to recognize who they are.

How to discover the relationships that are assigned to you:

When individuals are assigned to you, the display the following characteristics:

1. They have a common bond with you and share a mutual connection with you.
2. They recognize who you are, identify your greatness, and treat you as you are. They know you by the Spirit and not the flesh. Peter recognized who Jesus was, He knew He was the Christ because the Spirit of God revealed it to him. Assigned relationships recognize your potential.
3. They capture the vision and the passion that God has given to you. The disciples willingly followed Jesus when He called them. Hence, assigned relationships will do the same.
4. They treat you with honor and respect. Always celebrating your feats and accomplishments and regardless of your seen imperfections and human weaknesses, assigned relationships will still revere you.
5. The meet a particular need in your life. You were designed with basic human needs such as affirmation, love, acceptance, recognition, appreciation, connection and a desire to be touched. Assigned relationships will always meet these needs in your life.
6. They love you, the real you, the work in progress you. Assigned relationships will always love you.
7. They will extend favor to you. Assigned relationships will provide and extend opportunities to you. They will open doors for you.
8. They have a grace for you. Every relationship has challenges and endures difficulties. Assigned relationships have been enabled with a tenacity to see you through every challenge in the relationship and through every failure in your life.

Not everyone is assigned to you. You must be able to recognize those that are assigned to you and also recognize those that are not!

How to Identify the Different Levels of Assignment

Every relationship in your life has a different level of assignment. The relationship assignment is dependent upon their strength and your need for that strength in your life.

At times relationships fail because we allow people to meet a need that they were not designed to meet in our lives. Hence, it is important we recognize person’s specific assignments in our lives.

A person’s assignment in your life is always demonstrated by their strength.

Types of Assigned Relationships

• Outer court relationships - These persons typically meet a physical need in your life. There is no level of intimacy or deep level of bonding. They are designed to be at the peripheral of your life. Eg. Your Customers,
• Inner court - These persons meet some soulish need and some spiritual need in your life. There is some level of intimacy and bonding confidence but not a high level. Eg. Your Co-workers and friends
• Holy of Holies - These persons meet both your spiritual and soulish needs. There is a high level of of intimacy, a high level of bonding, and also you have a high level of confidence in the relationship meet. Eg. Your spouse

To become successful in life you must be able to recognize the relationships that God has specifically assigned to be a channel in your life of himself. To know if a relationship is assigned, always ask yourself, “What is this person, revealing about God to me!” Then you will know if the relationship is assigned to you or not!

Here are a few action exercises to put these thoughts to actions:

1. Review the relationships in your life and determine whether they are assigned to you using the outline provided above.
2. Pray for the assigned relationships in your life.

RECOMMENDED BOOK

Encouragement Changes Everything - John C. Maxwell

QUOTE TO REMEMBER

“When Satan wants to destroy you, He puts a person in your life. When God wants to bless you, He puts a person in your life.”

Contact Information:

P.O.Box SP 60026

Nassau, Bahamas

Telephone No. (242) 376 3922

Email: ironnetwork.org@gmail.com

or info@ironnetworkinc.org

Website: www.ironnetworkinc.org